Edward De Juan on Marriage and Divorce

ID Channel’s Fatal Vows shares dramatizations of marriages that went terribly wrong. Edward De Juan is an actor, producer, and artist who has played on a few episodes and talks about the criminal psychology that he learned about marriages that led to divorces.

ATM: How do you believe this show dives into the psychology behind men and women?

Edward: It dives in there a lot. It talks about murder and the psychology everyone goes through while dealing with anger. It pushes their boundaries. It analyzes from a scientific perspective and gives you a good understanding. It helps people.

ATM: How does this show exhibit how a marriage can turn from perfect to a murder tragedy?

Edward: The show points out a lot of red flags in terms of a marriage. Whenever you point out those red flags it gives people warnings of what to watch out for. No, there is no such thing of a perfect marriage. It shows you you never know what people are capable of. For example, cheating. It gives you a perspective of how everyone is different on how they will react to certain things.

ATM: What is the negative side to love?

Edward: The basis of the show displays that whenever a trust is broken it can push a human being to an emotion that can show them on a different level. A negative side would be anger. A negative side of trust leads to jealousy. Whenever someone gets jealous they can dive into the emotion of anger. Sometimes anger can get shown on different levels. It accelerates to a point where murdering can come out of a human being. It shows that it can be controlled. It shows the different angles of anger. It raises the awareness of what you should not be doing.

ATM: Explain how the forensic professionals continue the narrative related to this topic.

Edward: They break down the emotion from a scientific point of view. It controls the narrative in a way where it gives an explanation in a scientific way. Whenever the public hears something from a scientific way they jump to conclusions. “This is scientifically proven then there is no way getting around it.” They break down the human psyche of it. People say they could never end up like this. When you break down the human psyche of it you never know what you could be like. When this and that happens, it allows your brain to react to certain emotions. Some people do not believe they can get to this mindset. You may think you are not capable of doing this. Sometimes when you are pushed emotionally, you lose the control of logic.

ATM: Do you feel most people have it in them to make a person tick to make them come out of their comfort zone?

Edward: It is possible. It all comes down to the individual themselves how much control they have or their logic over their emotions. Some people have their emotions speak over their logic. There are some people that are very strong-minded while in an emotional state. They can take a deep breath and choose logic.

ATM: Explain the Blood Matrimony episode you were on.

Edward: I played a character named Steve Dingle. He basically was manipulated to the point of having a psychosis. He just lost all control of all his logic. He allowed his anger and emotions to take over. He thought his wife was cheating on him. A lot of his information was fed by his own family because they did not like the wife. They manipulated him to the point where he just believed everything they said even if it was not true. This is an example of emotions taking over logic. He never stopped to think about if this was true or not. His emotions overwhelmed him to the point he did not think at all. He just reacted. He was pushed to this point where a murderous rage just came out of him.

ATM: Explain the significance of your quote “I can go through the rest of my life pleasing my parents by working as a businessman, a lawyer, a doctor, but deep down I will always be an artist at heart. . . And no matter what, at the end of the day . . . this is what I was born to be.”

Edward: Growing up I always wanted to be an artist. I have always taken a big interest in music and in acting. Anything in the realms of entertainment. This is kind of based on our economy. We are all living in an economy of capitalism where money rules all. From a general perspective, artists are not known for making lots of money. Unless you are a big time A-lister. It is such a niche market of making it big and becoming financially stable. It is more of our parent’s dreams for us to be doctors, lawyers, or a businessman.

There is a funny thing with Filipinos. Everyone in the Philippines wants to be a dancer, artist, or singer. Most of them become nurses. The joke is that this is not our dream, but it is our parent’s dreams because they get a lot of benefits and become stabled. Money is not everything. We are always looking for that thing that makes us happy. The significance of the quote is that I can make a lot of money with what my parents want me to be, but deep down I will never be happy. Because being an artist is what I was destined to be as a kid.

ATM: Do you feel like some parents vicariously live their dream through their children because they did not live out their dreams?

Edward: I would say most of them do. I would not say all. A lot of parents like to live through their children. Especially if they grow to be more successful than they did. It is always the children wanting to make the parents proud in becoming more successful.

ATM: How can a person pick happiness over money when they have not experienced true happiness?

Edward: True happiness is mainly a mindset. There is no real definition of anyone’s happiness. It is something that brings you to a point. You can wake up in the morning to loving everything. Some people who are not doing what they love to do wake up in the morning saying, “I have to wake up. I have to do my job.” They stare at the clock all day. When you are doing something, you enjoy doing and something you really wanted to do, time does not exist. Sometimes when you are just going through the rest of your day as it goes by you do not even realize you stayed three later from the time you were supposed to. Nothing else matters. This caters to every individual’s definition of what happiness is.

ATM: What makes you happy?

Edward: It is hard to say. I feel like with happiness there is always a journey, at least for me personally. I am always striving for it the closer I get to it. I would say I am truly happy. If I have become an A-list movie star and made it in music, then this would make me happy. I can wake up every day to say I have made it.

ATM: You are saying you do not have the real definition of happiness yet?

Edward: No. Not the true definition. I can name a bunch of things that make me happy on a daily basis, but true happiness, no. I guess I do not. I just realized this maybe five minutes ago in this conversation. I thought I did, but after thinking about it more, maybe I do not.